An effective way to find closure is to imagine a conversation with the deceased to discuss unasked questions.
Has someone dear to you died before you could discuss questions you had wanted to ask?
Do you need to resolve some hurt feelings?
Do you need to overcome feelings of guilt for the way you may have treated them?
Would you want to have the chance to talk with your Mom or Dad who passed away?
To do that, imagine visiting the deceased and talking with them by creating their persona, or psyche, in your mind.
Wherever that imagined visit takes you, you'll learn something from it. That will help with healing when you're seeking closure.
I had unspoken questions twice in my life after losing a loved one. Once with my father and years later with my aunt.
I didn't feel any peace because I did not have serious discussions about important issues that troubled me before their deaths.
Fortunately, I discovered this method of imagining a visit. And it helped resolve the grief I felt for not having the conversations I needed to have with them.
You can still visit someone after death by imagining it and scripting a conversation. You can ask questions and determine the answers by using your knowledge of their personality and how they may have responded.
Remember, you can recreate their persona, or psyche, in your mind. It's as if you were visiting them to talk, even though they are no longer physically there. You would be creating the script of the conversation in your mind.
That may help with grief or closure by finding a way to complete those discussions that you wish you had while they were alive.
Imagine meeting with the deceased and having a conversation as if they were there with you.
When we remember loved ones who we lost due to old age or health problems, we most likely visualize them as we last knew them.
So, it's helpful to decide how old they should be when you visit them in this simulated visit. Many different results can come from it, and that depends on the age you choose them to be when you imagine this visit.
You may want to try visiting them at several different stages in their life so you can discuss things that were pertinent at that time.
I did this when I needed closure with my aunt after she passed away. I needed to resolve some issues that had been bothering me ever since I was a child. There were questions I never asked during her lifetime about things I wanted to know.
So, in my mind, I imagined her being at the age I recall her being when I was a kid. Then, I pretended to have a conversation with her as if she were there with me.
You can do anything you want to accomplish this communication with a deceased friend or relative. Do whatever is necessary to help with your grief or resolve an issue to feel closure.
If you need to resolve unfinished business, you can still accomplish that with a deceased loved one by using your knowledge of how they would have wished to help you. It works. You're in control of the process.
During your pretend visit, bring their reactions to life in your mind and try to pay attention to their expression. Try to remember how they used to respond to you so you can simulate that in your imagined visit.
Do you want to have some precious time with them that you missed out on when they were still around?
Was something troubling you that you never discussed with them when they were alive?
Were they a source of comfort? Do you need that now? Were they the only person you could get that from?
Do you need their approval on some issues that you never resolved?
Were they critical of you, and are you ready to understand the reason why? Or did you already resolve that and want to share the news with them?
Maybe you might even want to thank them for making you aware of something important?
Do you need their input on something going on for you right now that you are anxious about settling? Are they the only person who can help?
Plan your imagined visit by thinking about what you would want to accomplish.
Use some idea you have of their attitude to envision what they might tell you and what answers they may have in response to the questions lingering in your mind.
If it's unfinished business you feel you need to resolve, how will it affect you if you get an answer you don't want?
There are many issues to consider, and you can get a lot out of it by imagining how a discussion with a loved one might go.
As we just discussed, it's best to be proactive and consciously create these conversations in your mind. But it can also happen passively in a dream.
When we have dreams of someone who has passed away, it's our mind's way of resolving unfinished business.
A common phenomenon for many people is to have dreams in which the deceased reappears.
There is some psychological meaning to these dreams. They may result from your brain trying to make sense of an unexpected loss or to resolve emotional issues.
I had an experience when a deceased relative appeared in my dream. It wasn't until I woke up that I realized they had already been dead. However, in my dream, they were very much alive. It's as if they were immortal in my mind.
Dreams of deceased relatives can occur at any time. They can come back, even decades later, to revisit us in a dream. That is our brain's way of working out some form of closure for unresolved issues.
For example, my father reappeared in my dreams several times after his death. In those dreams, he was very much alive. That experience left me with a feeling of peace when I woke up in the morning.
So, try to pay attention to your dreams when you wake up. You might quickly forget them later in the day. However, if you concentrate on its message when you first wake up and remember the dream, it can help you find closure.
When pretending to visit with your loved one, remember you could have a good idea of how they would respond to various questions by imagining and recreating their psyche. You can determine what they would have told you when they were alive.
Just verbalize those answers in your mind as if you were having a conversation with them today. Your loved one wants to help you seek closure. They will never let you down, dead or alive.
Hopefully, you'll achieve peace and undersatnding about the things you overlooked while they were alive, so you have closure.
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